First you need to understand that what you are being told by the mainstream media about why you gain weight is not the whole story (I will call this the ”Lie” from here-on in). Once you understand this I hope you will be motivated to look deeper into the truth …
Weight gain is a subject that seems to have many notions attached to it that are all too often judgemental, not at all compassionate, not fully informed and ultimately damaging for the people involved in the drama that comes with it. Too often I see the subject around ‘excess fat’ causing pain and suffering, often silent and insidious for those involved. It is through some personal realisations as well as what I have seen going on with some of my clients and friends over the years that I write this article to shed new light into the foundations of weight gain so that the world can develop a kinder, deeper and more compassionate understanding and so that a helpful attitude can be reached by the nation(s) as a whole giving people from both ‘sides of the fence’ and those caught in the crossfire more of a chance to heal and find happiness.
All the in-depth information as to the many reasons for the body resulting in ‘filling out’ a little is out there to be found if you are willing to find it. However, first you need to understand that what you are being told by the mainstream media is not the whole story (I will call this the ”Lie” from here-on in). Once you understand this I hope you will be motivated to look deeper into the truth. But not only that, you need to find the time to do it, know where to look and be in a responsive frame of mind to understand it. So here I make it easier for you to do just that – I have put it all in one place along with my own outlook and understanding on the subject so that you can figure out what is really going on under this deeply twisted Lie more easily.
It seems that, as I have already said, the easiest information to find on weight gain on the whole seems to be found in the ‘mainstream media’ which is rather biased towards excess weight being purely related to either one or both of two reasons – either that you eat too much of the wrong foods or you are obviously not taking enough exercise. These two reasons being focused on alone have created a very big money-making market and are strongly defended by biased industry sponsors who have perpetuated the Lie. And to make matters worse hand-in-hand with these two assumptions then comes the HUGE STIGMA that filters through into the minds of the masses (I shall relate to this from here-on in as “fat shaming” or the haters as “fat shamers”). Many people, adults and sadly children alike, are programmed by this Lie into thinking that when they set eyes on someone who is ‘overweight’, or if you are bigger yourself, more often than not respect is lost for that person or, if it is you, you lose self-respect (often unconsciously). Contempt sets in, which often becomes very deep. It is all too often assumed that the larger person is not looking after themselves, they apparently have no self-control, they are lazy and lack discipline, are ignorant, refuse to take responsibility for themselves, are wasting their life, fat people are not people or don’t deserve to be treated like people, they are gluttons, deserve to be bullied, are disgusting, unattractive, you would never consider going out with them because you couldn’t respect them, they are constantly underestimated, are not eating healthily, are sick more often, you will die young (not true), are fat slobs (lots of name throwing), are a tax burden (yes, apparently some people think that!) … and the list goes on. It’s all a load of TOXIC JUDGEMENTAL energy bouncing around, that in and of itself causes even more problems to society as a whole … and this toxic sludge is all based on a Lie.
bullies feel they have the right to get personal and point out that you are fat when it is none of their business … but what it does oo is make them feel better about themselves in what they have been led to believe is a ‘socially acceptable context’ …
These same people seem to hate, ridicule, bully and/or attack larger people, condemning them by calling it a lifestyle and a choice through sneering lips – they feel they have the right to get personal and point out that you are fat when it is none of their business … but what it does do is make them feel better about themselves in what they have been led to believe is a ‘socially acceptable context’. And all too often this behaviour along with their ignorance hides behind a face of concern for that persons well-being. They think ‘tough love’ works all the while alienating themselves from the one’s they supposedly love – there is no love in fat shaming. Fat shaming is emotional abuse. Yet they continue to suggest fad diets and overly harsh exercise regimes through their concern for you shrouded by judgement … but what they do not realise is that these suggestions are only part of the foundations of well-being, and standing on their own only really make short-term differences, or worse they cause harmful yo-yo weight fluctuations or no weight loss at all. Taking action on these two limited suggestions are often just overly stressing the body physically which can wreak havoc with hormones eventually leading to and contributing to adrenal exhaustion. And did I stress enough that much guilt and shame is created around all this, be it unknowingly much of the time (shame right back at you fat shamers!) – all of which creates yet further massive stress in the individuals being targeted (for want of a better word) which in turn further adversely affects their emotional self, their hormones, compounding further weight gain and ultimately deeper health problems. And all the while more often than not the ‘fat’ person is actually eating extremely healthily, getting plenty of exercise (often even running marathons) and taking extremely good care of themselves. Many are perplexed as to why their body weight remains the same as it does. And this is what this series of three articles are all about, so do read on …
First of all, before I write on I want you to please remember as you read this that there is good news. There is much that you can do to heal your emotional self – and I say this because the condition of the emotional self plays probably the biggest part in this issue of weight gain; and I will also go into the emotional self of the ‘fat shamers’ too. Let me explain …
Read Part 2 here … / this section is to help you understand how the emotional self is affected by ‘the flavour’ of a union, genetics, how an unbalanced energy body affects human health and much much more … true understanding of this subject will help all of you to re-root compassion and love firmly in the foundations of man (whether you are a ‘bigger person’ yourself shaming yourself/a fat shamer/or a fat bigot alike) .
Read Part 3 here … / which will give suggestions as to what you can do about it – and techniques you can learn – so that we can work towards making the world a kinder and more compassionate place through a TRUE understanding of the issues involved in this sore and mean topic.
Until then, adieu
© 2014 — Liz Shewan. (first published 4th April 2014 on my old blog)
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